Joe Amaral - The Wedding Pattern
The Bride and the Bridegroom
The potential bridegroom would show up to the father’s house with a contract, a skin of wine, and gifts.
Then a betrothal contract was presented to the father. This potential bridegroom would state his earnings, how he would provide for the bride, and state the living arrangements made for her.
The father would accept or decline. The bride would agree or disagree as well. The bride price was important. The higher the price, the more the bridegroom loved the bride.
1 Peter 1:18,19 - Knowing that you were not redeemed with corruptible things, like silver or gold, from your aimless conduct received by tradition from your fathers, but with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot.
If the bridegroom was accepted, and the bride agreed to the contract, wine would be poured. When she drank from the cup, she indicated she accepted the proposal and the couple was then betrothed. No consummation of the marriage happened, but the marriage was legally binding. This period lasted about a year.
The bridegroom would then drink from the cup to indicate joy that his new bride had received him by receiving the cup.
Matthew 26:27-29 - Then He took the cup, and gave thanks, and gave it to them, saying, “Drink from it, all of you. For this is My blood of the new covenant, which is shed for many for the remission of sins. But I say to you, I will not drink of this fruit of the vine from now on until that day when I drink it new with you in My Father’s kingdom.”
The couple separated and began making preparations for the wedding day.
After the betrothal, gifts were left for her. This was a demonstration of the bridegrooms joy, and her acceptance. The gifts serve as a reminder to her of him as he went away during the betrothal period. The gifts focused the bride on her groom.
Ephesians 4:7-8- But to each one of us grace was given according to the measure of Christ’s gift. Therefore He says: “When He ascended on high, He led captivity captive, And gave gifts to men.”
1 Corinthians 12:1 - Now concerning spiritual gifts, brethren, I do not want you to be ignorant.
Preparing a Place
The groom went back to his Father’s house to prepare a place for his bride. It was often an addition to an existing part of the house so the family lived close together. It was built to the Father’s specifications.
This is the house where the groom and bride would spend their first 7 days together (their honeymoon).
John 14:1-4 - “Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father’s house are many mansions, if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself, that where I am, there you may be also. And where I go you know, and the way you know.”
The son had to wait patiently until the Father allowed him to go claim his bride. If the Son (Bridegroom) was asked if it was time for him to receive his bride, he would respond, “Only my Father knows.”
When the Lord was asked if he was going to restore the kingdom to Israel, he said to them, “It is not for you to know the times or dates the Father has set by his own authority.”
Mark 13:32 - “But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father.”
Acts 1:6-7 - Therefore, when they had come together, they asked Him, saying,
“Lord, will You at this time restore the kingdom to Israel?” And He said to them, “It is not for you to know times or seasons which the Father has put in His own authority.”
Yeshua was speaking with the betrothal process in mind.
While the groom was away, the bride had responsibilities while waiting. She was to get herself ready for his return. She was bought for a price and was set aside or “apart” for her groom. She wore a veil over her head in public so others knew she belonged to her beloved, and she would not know the exact day of her beloved’s return.
Traditionally, the groom came at night and so she had to have her bags packed and lamps filled with oil ready by her bedside. She would have her dowry and treasures to bring with her to show her love for her groom.
Luke 15:8-9 - “Or what woman, having ten silver coins, if she loses one coin, does not light a lamp, sweep the house, and search carefully until she finds it? And when she has found it, she calls her friends and neighbours together, saying, ‘Rejoice with me, for I have found the piece which I lost!’”
The day came when the Father released his son to marry his bride. Usually the groomsmen would go ahead of him and sound the shofar to let her know that her groom had finally come. At the blast of the trumpet sound she would leave her home and come to the gate where the groom would be waiting for her. They would then go to the prepared wedding chamber where they would spend the next 7 days together.
Psalm 24:7-10 - Lift up your head, O ye gates; and be ye lift up, ye everlasting doors; and the King of glory shall come in. Who is this King of glory? The LORD strong and mighty, the LORD mighty in battle. Lift up your heads, O ye gates; even lift them up, ye everlasting doors; and the King of glory shall come in. Who is this King of glory? The LORD of hosts, he is the King of glory.
Revelation 4:1-2 - After this I looked, and behold, a door was opened in heaven: and the first voice which I heard was as it were of a trumpet talking with me; which said, Come up hither, and I will show thee things which must be hereafter. And immediately I was in the spirit: and, behold, a throne was set in heaven, and one sat on the throne.
1 Thessalonians 5:1-4 - But concerning the times and the seasons, brethren, you have no need that I should write to you. For you yourselves know perfectly that the day of the Lord so comes as a thief in the night. For when they say, “Peace and safety!” then sudden destruction comes upon them, as labor pains upon a pregnant woman. And they shall not escape.
1 Thessalonians 4:16-18 - For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And thus we shall always be with the Lord. Therefore comfort one another with these words.
If the bride was not prepared and ready for the groom, the groom had the right of refusal.
Luke 12:35-40 - “Be dressed for service and keep your lamps burning, as though you were waiting for your master to return from the wedding feast. Then you will be ready to open the door and let him in the moment he arrives and knocks. The servants who are ready and waiting for his return will be rewarded. I tell you the truth, he himself will seat them, put on an apron, and serve them as they sit and eat! He may come in the middle of the night or just before dawn. Understand this: If the good man of the house knew exactly when a burglar was coming, he would not permit his house to be broken into. You also must be ready at the time, for the Son of Man will come when least expected.”
Song of Songs 5:2-7 - THE SHULAMITE I sleep, but my heart is awake; It is the voice of my beloved! He knocks, saying, “ Open for me , my sister, my love, My dove, my perfect one; for my head is covered with dew, My locks with the drops of the night.” I have taken off my robe; How can I put it on again? I have washed my feet; How can I defile them? My beloved put his hand By the latch of the door, And my heart yearned for him. I arose to open for my beloved, And my hands dripped with myrrh, My fingers with liquid myrrh, On the handles of the lock. I opened for my beloved, But my beloved had turned away and was gone . My heart leaped up when he spoke. I sought him, but I could not find him; I called him, but he gave me no answer. The watchmen who went about the city found me. They struck me, they wounded me; but he gave me no answer. The watchmen who went about the city found me. They struck me, they wounded me;
Matthew 22:1-4 - And Jesus answered and spake unto them again by parables, and said, “The kingdom of heaven is like unto a certain king, which made a marriage for his son , And sent forth his servants to call them that were bidden to the wedding: and they would not come. Again, he sent forth other servants, saying, Tell them which are bidden, Behold, I have prepared my dinner: my oxen and my fatlings are killed, and all things are ready: come unto the marriage.”
Matthew 22:5,6 - “But they made light of it, and went their ways, one to his farm, another to his merchandise: And the remnant took his servants, and entreated them spitefully and slew them.”
Matthew 22:8-10 - “Then said he to his servants, ‘ The wedding is ready ’, but they which were bidden were not worthy. Go ye therefore into the highways, and as many as ye shall find, bid to the marriage. So those servants went out into the highways, and gathered together all as many as they found, both bad and good: and the wedding was furnished with guests.
Luke 12:35-40 - “Be dressed for service and keep your lamps burning, as though you were waiting for your master to return from the wedding feast. Then you will be ready to open the door and let him in the moment he arrives and knocks. The servants who are ready and waiting for his return will be rewarded. I tell you the truth, he himself will seat them, put on an apron, and serve them as they sit and eat! He may come in the middle of the night or just before dawn. Understand this: If the good man of the house knew exactly when a burglar was coming, he would not permit his house to be broken into. You also must be ready at the time, for the Son of Man will com when least expected.”
Luke 12:41,42 - Then Peter said to Him, “Lord, do You speak this parable only to us, or to all people?” And the Lord said, “Who then is that faithful and wise steward, whom his master will make ruler over all his household, to give them their portion of food in due season?
Luke 12:45-48 - But if that servant says in his heart, ‘My master is delaying his coming,’ and begins to beat the male and female servants, and to eat and drink and be drunk, the master of that servant will come on a day when he is not looking for him, and at an hour when he is not aware, and will cut him in two and appoint him his portion with the unbelievers. And that servant who knew his master’s will, and did not prepare himself or do according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. But he who did not know, yet committed things deserving of stripes, shall be beaten with few. For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more.
The wedding couple spent their next 7 days in the Father’s house where the wedding chamber was. After the 7 days were over, the guests would wait for the announcement that the wedding was consummated. Then everyone would celebrate for 7 days together.
The bride of Christ will be “caught up” before the Time of Jacob’s Trouble, and spend the 7 years with Christ in his Father’s house.
Zephaniah 2:3 - Seek ye the LORD, all ye meek of the earth, which have wrought his judgment; seek righteousness, seek meekness: it may be ye shall be hid in the day of the LORD’s anger.
Psalm 27:5 - For in the time of trouble he shall hide me in his pavilion: in the secret of his tabernacle shall he hide me; he shall set me up upon a rock.
Malachi 3:16-18 - “They that feared the Lord spoke often to one another; and the Lord heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the Lord, and that thought upon his name. And they shall be mine, said the Lord of Hosts, in that day when I make up my jewels; and I will spare them , as a man spares his own son that serves him. Then I will return , and discern between the righteous and the wicked, between him that serves God and him that serves him not.”
1 Thessalonians 5:9,10 - For God did not appoint us to wrath, but to obtain salvation through our Lord Jesus Christ, who died for us, that whether we wake or sleep, we should live together with Him.
After the wedding celebration, the groom and bride would return to their new home that the groom had prepared for them.
Revelation 21:1-3 - Now I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the first earth had passed away. Also there was no more sea. Then I, John, saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband . And I heard a loud voice from heaven saying, “Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and He will dwell with them, and they shall be His people. God Himself will be with them and be their God.
The Feast of Trumpets is connected prophetically to the return of Christ our bridegroom.